It’s time for acceptance, 
focus on real problems

BH-2015-06-02-A001Former Olympian Bruce Jenner is a woman now. Call her Caitlyn, she says on the July cover of Vanity Fair.

“Caitlyn doesn’t have any secrets,” Jenner said on the video promoting the shoot.

“As soon as the Vanity Fair cover comes out, I’m free.”

Her transformation immediately set off a firestorm on social media. Some people have been supportive of Jenner’s transgender coming-out party; others were turned off. On Facebook some called Caitlyn a “sicko,” “freak” and wished they could “un-see” the new Vanity Fair photos.

Me, I think everyone needs to take a deep breath and calm down. Why can’t people approach this issue with kindness and compassion? Caitlyn Jenner isn’t hurting anyone or breaking any laws.

There’s no doubt that if a person transitions to 
another sex, they’ve struggled internally with their sexual identity, likely for years — perhaps even a lifetime, like Jenner. Can you imagine being a woman trapped in a man’s body or vice versa?

Most of us can’t and that’s why we shouldn’t judge. Unless one walks a few miles in another’s shoes, we have no idea what pain a person has experienced emotionally, mentally, spiritually or otherwise.

I’m a firm believer that people must live authentic lives. Honesty matters.

Hiding or pretending to be someone we’re not just to fit in or to avoid shame is no way to live. Better to be real, and either accepted by others or socially 
rejected, than to live your entire life as a sham. Caitlyn Jenner should be 
applauded for her courage to stop living a lie.

One of my yoga teachers once started class saying, “Many of us go through life wearing a mask. We pretend to be things we’re not in order to fit into a role or to please others. We pretend to be happy when we’re not. We pretend to be strong, when we feel weak. We pretend to be the things others want or expect us to be. And it’s incredibly draining. For the next 90 minutes, we’re going to drop the mask. Because in the yoga community, we can handle who you truly are. Your authentic self is good enough.”

People wept.

Acceptance of our true selves and others is both powerful and liberating.

We need to remember that peace and happiness don’t mean one size fits all. With billions of people in this world, we don’t all find inner tranquility and fulfillment the exact same way.

It’s 2015 — high time we accept that and focus on real problems facing America. Not Jenner, who’s fin-ally found her true self.

Here’s wishing Caitlyn the best.

Adriana Cohen is co-host of “Boston Herald Drive” on Herald Radio weekdays from 7 a.m. to 9 a.m. Follow her on Twitter @AdrianaCohen16.

About Adriana Cohen

Adriana Cohen is host of the “Adriana Cohen Show” heard Wednesdays at noon on Boston Herald Radio. Follow her on Twitter @AdrianaCohen16.