Dear Kim Davis,
I want to let you know why as a straight, married mom who was raised Catholic, I support gay marriage and disagree with your refusal to hand out marriage licenses to same-sex couples.
Not knowing me, you may think I’m a liberal. Not so. In fact, I’m a lifelong Ronald Reagan-loving Republican who has supported gay marriage long before half the phonies in Washington did. You’ll remember that Hillary Clinton was against it, before she was for it.
I support gay marriage because I love kids. Having several myself I know that it’s important to raise children in a home with stability. My parents were married for 42 years until the day my dad died. I’ve been married to the same man for 17 years.
One of the main reasons people get married is because they want to have a family. This includes having children. I think most would agree — including many Catholics — that having two loving parents in the home, who are married, provides stability for children. When parents are married, kids can focus on being kids and growing up without the anxiety that can come with a single parent having a revolving door of “dates” coming through their home and lives.
Knowing that many gay couples have children, I question why anyone would want to deny their children — or anyone’s kid — that sense of stability that comes with marriage.
Not to mention the financial security. Two-parent households with dual incomes are better than one. I’d like to point out that single moms are the No. 1 demographic living in poverty today in America.
That said, even if one has religious beliefs that conflict with gay marriage, I think we should ask ourselves if God would want a loving, stable home for all children.
At middle age, I don’t know everything. But I do know that straight people don’t have a monopoly on good parenting.
There are plenty of good gay parents who are raising wonderful children. I see this firsthand.
The quality of parenting comes from the quality of the individual: Their heart, their character and their steadfast dedication to putting their children first in their pecking order of priorities. Good or bad parenting has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
I’m not writing this letter to convert you to my beliefs. To the contrary, I believe in religious freedom. We’re also a nation of laws applied equally.
I realize we’re not all going to agree on issues. I just ask that you consider my viewpoint as I have considered yours.